Life isn’t easy. There will always be times where we feel down. There will be times when we feel our world is falling apart. Everything and everyone seems to oppose us. Everything doesn’t go according to plan. That feeling sucks. Sometime, we even ask ourselves, “Why am I still living?” Or, we insult ourselves. “I’m such a useless person. There is no point for me to continue living in this world.” We feel horrible about ourselves.
When things don’t go well, we tend to make it worse. It’s true. We amplify the problem. The way we perceive the problem, makes the situation 10 times worse than before. But, things don’t happen to you. It happens for you. We can change the situation, gradually. How? For Instead of getting control by your own emotion, focus on these 7 methods to stay positive:
1. Express your gratitude daily.
Quit complaining about the bad things that happen to you. Everyone has had a bad day before. But know that having a bad day does not mean you have a bad life. We all have something to be grateful for. It is just that when we are in the bad situation, we forget all about the tiny little things that we should be thankful for. Instead, we let negative thoughts occupy our mind, making things worse.
There are different ways of expressing your gratitude daily. The most common method is to write down a list of things that you are grateful for, either every morning or before your bed time. Like this:
- I still have the ability to read, to see the beauty of nature and to listen to music.
- I have caring and loving family and friends.
- I’m not living in starvation.
- I can walk, run, and jump. I’m physically healthy.
- I still have a job.
Write down what comes across your mind in a journal. Even if it’s the simplest thing that you are grateful for. You will be shocked at how this habit can change your life.
(For more ways to express how thankful you are, check out “50 ways to show gratitude for the people in your life” from TinyBuddha)
2. Think of the worst possible situation.
“How can this situation become even worse?” Ask yourself. Think of the worst possible thing that can happen to you. Then you will be grateful for your current situation. Imagine the worst possible situation that you could be in, and you will be more thankful as you realize that you are in a way better position than that.
There is a saying that goes, “No expectation. No Disappointment”. Is it true? It depends on you. But in most cases, if we expect the worst things to happen, most of the time the worst situation won’t happen. No matter what happens, the situation will be always better than our expectations, which will in turn make us feel relatively good.
“Hope for the best, expect the worst.”
I’m not telling you to always expect bad things happening to you. I’m telling you to imagine the worst possible situation you could be in while you are in a tight spot. By doing this, you are able to see the positive in your unfortunate situation. By shifting our expectation to a worse one, we might see things differently.
3. Change your perspective.
Step back, and look at your current situation from a different perspective. Sticking to one single perspective doesn’t make things any better, in fact, it may have the opposite effect. Try a different approach to viewing your problems.
“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.”
– Joel Osteen
It is very normal to experience tough times in our lives. But, like what Joel Osteen said, “Nothing happens to you, it happens for you”. One simple sentence, yet, it contains two vastly different perspectives to how we view the problems around us. Problems happen for a reason, which is to allow us to grow stronger, to learn. It is merely a stepping stone to success, to a happier life.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
– Wayne Dyer
Change your perception today, and you will see the positives in negative events.
4. Surround yourself with positive people.
Positive thinking is contagious. If you surround yourself with optimistic people, you will end up being influenced by them, positively. The famous motivational speaker, Jim Rohn once said that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
By being with positive people, we will eventually become more positive. Positive people will give you support when you are going through tough times. They will help you to overcome the obstacles you face by giving emotional support. They influence the way you think. They aid in shifting your negative mindset to a positive one.
Think about the people around you. Are they optimistic? Do you feel energized after spending time with them? Or do they complain a lot? Look out for their traits, and try to keep yourself away from people who are pessimistic.
5. Appreciate the little things you have.
Being positive is all about appreciating the little things around us. The small achievements we achieved in the past, the tiny things that we owned, it is all about these little things, that we fail to notice most of the time, especially when we are having a tough time.
“Positive anything is better than negative nothing.”
– Elbert Hubbard
We tend to forget about the valuable things that we have. This is especially true during tough times, where we are more likely to focus on the negative things. So starting from today, from the bottom of your heart, start to appreciate everything you have, even if it is something common and insignificant.
Sometimes, we just don’t realize how lucky we actually are until we lose something. Start to appreciate the things around us, even the little ones. That’s the key to staying positive even at the worst moments.
6. Fill yourself with positive quotes.
It is all about creating a positive environment around you. As we mentioned before, positivity is contagious. If we live in a positive environment, it will eventually become our source of positivity.
Finding positive quotes isn’t hard, especially in this time and age where we can just Google anything. Pick some that you really love. Jot it down on to your notepad, cue cards or on a piece of paper and maybe even stick it somewhere easily visible to you.
It is not necessary to restrict yourself to only searching for positive quotes. The point here is to surround yourself with positivity. It can also be done through reading a positivity blog (Strongly suggested) or following instagram/twitter accounts that constantly share positive quotes.
In case you are a busy person, let me save some time for you. Here are some sites that contain positive quotes:
– 50 Positive Thinking Quotes For More Inner Strength & Growth from Addicted2Success
– Top 10 Positive Quotes from BrainyQuotes
7. Acknowledge, face it and let it go.
Most of the time we are struggling with something, it is mainly because we can’t accept the truth, the reality. We can’t believe that negative events actually happened to us. And we try so hard to deny the fact that, we are in deep shit.
Refusing to accept reality usually results in frustration. When we don’t acknowledge the negative events that happened to us, we escape from the events. We shied away from it and dare not face it. We will find a thousand ways to escape from reality. Yet, are the problems solved after we buried our head in the sand? No.
Sometimes you have to confront the difficulties that arise in our lives. It is true. All we have to do is face it, accept it for what it is and just let it go. Acknowledge what had happened in the past, and let it be.
“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.”
Remember, we have no control over what has already happened, but the future is still in our hands. Let bygones be bygones. Don’t stress yourself over something that you can’t change. Face it, acknowledge it and let it go. By doing this, you will get rid of those devastating negative thoughts and you’ll be all the better due to it.
JUST REMEMBER THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT IS MORE HAPPY WITH LESS THAN WHAT YOU HAVE.
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