Have you ever given up on something you really wanted (or wanted to achieve)?
Let’s be honest, all of us have regrets in our lives. We gave up on something we liked or wanted before. I can’t speak for you, but I did, more than once, in fact.
During such situations, we always seem to think that, because of the circumstances, we have no choice but to give up. Have you ever had such thoughts?
“What if I had persisted longer?”
“What if I had never gave up at the time?”
“What if I had the determination and the perseverance to continue with what I was doing?”
You then start to regret your choices. You’ll start feeling down, doubting yourself, blaming yourself – these emotions and thoughts once crossed your mind right? You really liked something, loved something, had so much passion on that something, but because of the harsh realities, you stopped believing in yourself and your ability to obtain what you desire. You feel hopeless; you lack confidence … tons of negatives feelings flow into your mind, besieging your emotions, pummelling your self-esteem.
If you can tell yourself, “At least I tried” and if you can accept what you got in return for your efforts, then that’s good. That’s the right way to handle these types of situations.
But have you ever calculated how long you persisted on something in the past? How long have you spent working on your dreams that you had given up? 3 months? 6 months? Or maybe 1 year?
The 10,000 Hour Rule
So, how is this related to you?
Assuming that a pianist wants to be a top concert performer, he or she has to practice for at least 10,000 hours. In order to hit that target, he or she is required to practice 4 hours EVERY DAY for 6.8 years. (In reality, they require more deliberate practice than even that.)
The main point here is not the “10,000 hour rule”, it’s the persistence to practice every day for about 7 years.
Did you have this type of persistence in the past, when you were working on the things you really love (but gave up in the end)?
It’s all about how hard you want to succeed and how bad you want things to happen. Last time, you gave up, which meant that your desire to succeed is not strong enough. YET. That’s why you didn’t have the persistence to continue.
Anyhow, let bygones be bygones. I’m not here to make you feel guilty.
But what if……
A similar situation occurs again in the future? Are you going to just try and give up in the end? Again? On something you really love? Or are you going to persist and continue chipping off at the obstacles that life had put in your way?
Life is short, it’s okay to have some regrets, that’s what makes life interesting, but don’t fill your life with nothing but regrets, a few is more than enough!
Here’s what you should do:
In the future, there will be something, be it a dream, an accomplishment or even a milestone in your life that you want to achieve real bad. It’s not going to be easy, we know that. During your journey to achieve your goal, whenever you thought of giving up, remember:
Persistence is the key to success. Whenever you want to give up again, remember why you started in the first place. Recall the last time you gave up on something in the past. Do you want to have that feeling of regret in your life again?
NEVER GIVE UP ON SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN’T GO A DAY WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT.
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