We face failures all the time. Failures are a part of life, but often, we choose to let failures scare us away from the path to success. We allow failures to drag us down. We give failures the power to control us, to control our emotions and ultimately, our life. We allow failures to destroy our self-esteem. Sometimes, we don’t even dare to face our own failures. We shied away from it, we escape from reality, we avoid our failures like a plague.
Failure refers to the lack of success. Failures are the very thing we try to avoid. To normal people, failure is something scary, something unbearable. It is something that prevents us from succeeding. But, to successful people, failures are what made them successful. It is that something which drives them towards success.
What are failures?
1. Failures are experiences.
Everyone experiences different things in their lives. But every single person in the world will definitely face this one single thing in their lives. It is inevitable. It is ‘failure’. Every failure is a brand new experience for us. Every failure contains lessons that we can learn from. Every lesson, like the failures that teaches it, is unique. The one similarity between the failures that you will face is that it will have a huge impact on your future. As for whether it will have a negative or positive impact, it all depends on how you respond to it.
2. Failures are just another method that doesn’t work.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
– Thomas A. Edison
Failures teach you what doesn’t works. But most of the time, people don’t realize this. We often view failures as an obstacle, which prevents us from achieving our goals. We view it as proof of our inferiority. That is a wrong concept. Failures simply inform you of what doesn’t works, and you shouldn’t repeat the same mistakes again. Failure is a teacher, if you are willing to learn from it.
3. Failures are a part of success.
“Failures are part of the process of success. People who avoid failures also avoid success.”
– Robert T. Kiyosaki
Every successful person has experienced failures. Every single one of them. Why? Because failures are a part of success. Failures are the necessary stepping stones towards becoming successful.
“Success is not built on success. It’s built on failures.”
– Sumner Redstone
The author of the ‘Harry Potter’ series, J.K Rowling was rejected 12 times by different publishers before ‘Harry Potter and The Philosopher’s Stone’ was accepted. Walt Disney was turned down 302 times before he got financing for building Disneyland. Every successful person faced failures in their lives, but they never gave up. They understand the fact that failures are a part of success.
4. Failures are an opportunity.
Failures are opportunities for us to discover our weaknesses. We are able to understand more about ourselves when we experience failures. Whenever you fail, step back and reflect on yourself. What was the main cause that resulted in you failing? In which aspect can you improve in? Failures allow us to review ourselves. Both our weaknesses and strengths. Once we see our weaknesses, we can improve ourselves.
3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Failures:
1. Everyone failed. It is a common event in our lives.
You shouldn’t be afraid of failing because it happens to everyone. Every minute, there will be at least somebody in a corner of the world failing at what he and she is doing. Every day, there are people getting rejected.
When you’re reading this article, there is a possibility that top basketball players in the NBA are missing jump shots, professional soccer players are hitting the post or a marathon runner slipping. Even experts fail once a while in their lives. No one is born perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, gets rejected, and fail. But that doesn’t mean that you’re a failure.
“Remember that failure is an event, not a person.”
Even if you fail, you are not a failure. If you face it, overcome it, and learn from it, consider that as a success in your life.
2. The more failures you have experienced, the more resistant you are to failures.
Why are you afraid to fail? It’s because failure is something which is new to you. It is a new experience, completely unfamiliar and alien to you. You don’t know how to respond to it. As you face more failures in your life, you will slowly learn how to cope with failures. You learn that failures are nothing but opportunities to improve yourself.
“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”
The more failures you experienced in life, the better you become in handling failures. You will eventually know what to do when failures occur. You will develop the right mindset to face failures. As time goes on, you become more and more resistant to failures. And, in the end, you are the one who controls your own emotions and actions when failures arise. You are not acted upon by failures. By having the ability to cope with failures, you are considered as successful in your life
3. It is an opportunity to learn.
Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again. –Richard Branson
Do you want to become as successful as Richard Branson? Learn from your failures. After learning, start again. Failures are an opportunity to learn. It allows us to learn from our mistakes. Failures teach us what we never learnt in school.
“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.”
If you learn from failures, you are actually winning. Turn failures into learning experiences and it will make a huge difference in your life.
“The way you see the problem is the problem”
–Stephen R. Covey
This quote is from one of the best-selling self-improvement book of all time – “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, written by Stephen R. Covey. If you haven’t read the book, please do so, it is a very interesting read and will enrich you in many ways.
What this quote is trying to bring out is that the way in which you see failure decides what failure is. If you view failure as an opportunity to learn, to grow stronger, then it is an opportunity for you. But if you view failure as barrier that prevent you from succeeding in your life, then it is a barrier. You can choose how you perceive failures. The choice is in your hands!
DON’T AFRAID TO FAIL, BE AFRAID NOT TO TRY
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