This week, I failed miserably on my time management. Every day when I go to bed, I’ll have a look at my notepad and I’ll realize that there are still a few ‘to-do’ tasks left on it.
Let’s face it:
We fail to meet our objectives, goals or targets once in a while (or maybe even more frequently). And most of the time, we feel very guilty afterwards. We feel bad about it. The worst scenario – we blame ourselves for what had happened. Throughout our lives, we have probably faced many obstacles and tribulations. And when we fail to overcome it, we consider ourselves as failures.
It’s not the first time we fail, nor will it be the last time we fail.
Let’s accept the fact that, in the future, we are going to fail and make mistakes again and again and again. Failures don’t stop coming, it keep coming!
And if we don’t know how to deal with it, we are screwed. We’ll probably end up feeling demotivated and completely lacking in confidene. We end up digging ourselves deeper and deeper into a hole. Finally, we will probably experience a burnout after dealing with all of the pressure around us and throw in the towel.
Now, what you should always remember is to never feel down about failing. You’re still in charge of your own life. You can still make changes to have a game-changing impact on your life. Here’s what you can do when you’re facing failures upon failures.
Take a break.
Travel, have a cup of Starbucks, have a walk or watch the latest episode of Games of Thrones. Just do whatever you like. Let yourself get some rest and relax your mind. We are only human after all. We’re not machines (although, machines probably need rest as well) and thus we need some rest.
What would you do if your television is not functioning? Keep staring at it? Continuously switching it on and off? Hit it? No, you just switch it off and call someone to fix it. The same applies when you fail. When you fail, you should not persist and wear yourself out. Instead, take a break, think of a new plan and solve it later.
Sometimes, we don’t make the wrong decisions or mistakes because we lack the ability or skill. It happened just because of a common reason – we are physically or mentally tired. That’s why we take the wrong steps. When we are tired we aren’t as focus as we should be. We become more careless.
If you’re facing a huge breakdown, I personally recommend you to go on a vacation. Whether you are walking on a beach in Krabi, Thailand or seeing the Eiffel Tower for the first time, travelling allows you to relax yourself and dramatically reduce the stress you are experiencing as a result of failure. Not only that, you will broaden your perspective and be able to reflect and learn from your previous failure.
After experiencing failure, take your time to figure out the problems and solve it.
As mentioned before, you shouldn’t solve it immediately. Instead, after you fail, take a break, come back stronger and only then solve the problem. By taking a break before working on the solution, your mind is clearer and open to more possibilities. You’re able to focus on developing the best possible solution.
Most of the time, when we try to solve a problem immediately, we end up worsening the situation. This is because, instead of focusing on the solutions, we are focusing on the problems, especially when we are frustrated. Our problem-solving skills are stuck at that same level.
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
– Albert Einstein
That is why taking a break is necessary before you start working on the solutions. You allow yourself to freshen up your mind.
Or, Learn From it
Also keep in mind that not every failure requires a solution. Sometimes, we just need to learn from our failures and begin anew. No matter how many times you failed at something in the past, you can always start again.
The past cannot be altered, the mistakes you made cannot be undone. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn from it and avoid making similar mistakes in the future. The future is still in our hands.
“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing and falling over.”
– Richard Branson
When you fail, remember, it is just another lesson that life provides you for you to learn from. Oh, one more thing! You should never ever be afraid of failures or making mistakes. Face the fact that everyone makes mistakes. But the wise ones learn from it!
TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST, BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO.
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